tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-61934588578724697732024-03-13T05:21:30.602-07:00Life, She WroteAlicia Lepperthttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02840970718186336518noreply@blogger.comBlogger625125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6193458857872469773.post-14115358001598574252017-05-29T23:50:00.001-07:002017-05-29T23:59:05.648-07:00La La Land<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;">
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So here's the thing. I haven't reviewed a movie in years. I guess with age and maturity comes the realization that my opinion is just that: my opinion, and who cares what I think about movies besides me? But several people asked for my review on this particular movie so I'm dusting off my laptop, my blog, and my thumbs (you know, like Siskel and Ebert). Also because after thinking about this movie every day since I watched it last week, I've finally processed my feels and sort of kind of figured out what I want to say about it.<br />
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These were the things that I thoroughly enjoyed about La La Land:<br />
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<li>No sex, not a ton of language (just the token F word that all PG13 movies just cannot live without these days, don't get me started on that). Just a good, clean, wonderful, feel-good musical love story.</li>
<li>The music and dancing. I mean, seriously. How can you not love it? A modern day musical with a 50's feel (the wardrobe! the colors!) set to jazz, performed by two of the biggest Hollywood actors in the world? The music is so fun and catchy and gets stuck in your head and just makes you so happy and I could watch Emma and Ryan dance together in their B&W jazz shoes all. day. long. And, like Mia (Emma's character), I don't even <i>like</i> jazz. At all. (Don't tell Sebastian.)</li>
<li>The movie is a love letter to L.A. Which brings us to the main reason I loved this movie so much. My whole life I've been kind of obsessed with acting, movies, Southern California, celebrities, etc. All things Hollywood. Besides an author, the only thing I've ever wanted to be is an actress, and somewhere deep inside me lives that girl that longs to be on the big screen. So following Mia's often painful journey to making it in Hollywood resonated with me in a big way. More than that, though, was that less than two months ago my family and I took a vacation to L.A. for a week. Not a day goes by that I don't dream of the palm trees, the smells, the perfect weather, the beach, the theme parks, the food, the overall fairytale feeling of it (which is why its nickname, La La Land, is so accurate). I mentally go back to Anaheim, Hollywood, Santa Monica, and just smile. Somehow La La Land (the movie) perfectly captured the picturesque, dreamlike quality of Hollywood and portrays it exactly as I imagined it would be like to live there, as a struggling actress trying to make it. It intentionally sugarcoats L.A., cutting out the grit and grime that is prevalent through much of the sprawling city, showing only the bright, pretty, clean, fun version of Hollywood that most people envision in their disillusioned SoCal fantasies. And I love it. So many scenes with the Hollywood hills as the backdrop, pool parties in winter, dancing at twilight with the lights of the city lit up beneath them, the views breathtaking. It made me want to hop the next plane to LAX. </li>
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As you may know, the ending had a whole lot of people in an uproar. Most people loved the movie, hated the ending. Or hated the whole movie just because of the way it ended. Very few people were okay with the ending, and even fewer actually loved it. I'm in that last very small minority. Here's why:<br />
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First, let me thank my mom and my friend for "warning me" that they hated the ending. Note to all people who watch movies and talk about them to people who haven't seen them yet: If you say you hated the way a romance ended, you haven't just spoken in some uncrackable code. You basically just told everyone that the two love interests don't end up together. There's literally no other explanation for hating the ending of a romance. The end.<br />
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However, my thanks to them is actually genuine. Had I been expecting a happy ending, the fact that Mia and Sebastian go their separate ways at the end would have been a serious blow. But since I knew now not to expect a happy ending, I could just enjoy it for what it was. And what it was was AWESOME. Here's why: </div>
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It's realistic. 100% realistic. Another thing that age and maturity have brought me is an appreciation for reality and less of an infatuation with romance and happy endings. Romance and love come in many forms and this ending was <i>so</i> one of them. The movie was based on two people fighting to achieve their dreams, dreams they wanted more than anything in the world. They both knew this. They both knew that love, however great it was, would take a backseat to their big break if they ever got it. Repeatedly they supported each other in working toward their goals, encouraging one another to choose opportunities of success over their relationship. And in the end, their goals won, as they should have in a movie <i>all about people desperately reaching for their goals</i>. Would it have been awesome if they both got exactly what they'd dreamt of for so long AND got each other? Yes! Would it have been realistic? Not at all! (Can you name one celebrity who's made it big AND has managed to keep a successful relationship?) It would have made for a very convenient happy ending purely for the sake of pleasing the masses. And that's just lame. </div>
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BUT...if it's romance you're wanting, if you were just so invested in Seb and Mia's relationship that you just had to see that after everything, they still meant so much to each other, you got it. Although Mia winds up married to someone else (baby and all) after becoming a huge star, she and Sebastian share one of the most beautiful, romantic scenes together (without anyone cheating, imagine that!) in the form of a fantasy sequence. After stumbling unknowingly into Sebastian's jazz club with her husband, Mia sees him (Sebastian) at the piano and almost stops breathing. They look at each other. The club and everyone in it seems to cease existing in that moment. It's just the two of them. He begins to play their theme, the song he was playing on the piano the first time they met. Soon they are both transported into an alternate storyline, reliving each key scene in the movie as if everything had gone perfectly in their relationship and they'd stayed together. Mia envisioned him following her to Paris on her big break, marrying <i>him</i> instead and having a baby with <i>him. </i>It's beautiful, and emotional, and heartbreaking, and beautiful, and so very, very realistic. (And did I mention beautiful?) Who hasn't wondered what their life would be like if things had gone differently? Even the happiest person in the happiest marriage has wondered what their life might have been like if they'd ended up with someone else, or done things differently. </div>
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The sequence ends. Sebastian stops playing. They're brought back to reality, to the club, where Mia and her husband get up to leave. But just before exiting the club Mia stops and turns around, looking at Sebastian. He looks up from the piano, right at her. One long, meaningful look that tells them both all they need to know: that what they shared was everything. That it meant something big and something real. That even though they didn't end up together they were so important in each other's lives, in pushing each other to realize their dreams. And, just like the last thing they told each other before Mia left for Paris, (effectively ending their relationship,) they would always love each other. He smiles at her. She smiles back. And they know everything is as it should be. </div>
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Perfection. A magical ending that makes me swoon every time I think of it. I'm sure there's some deep meaning in the fact that a movie called La La Land prides itself in an ending based on reality (the director fought hard to keep his realistic ending and refused to change it even at the risk of never getting the movie made) and not some fairytale "they all lived happily ever after" but for now all I can say is it's ironic? I don't know, it's too much thinking for me. So I'll just enjoy it and tell the naysayers to watch it again. I hear people like it better the second time. </div>
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<br />Alicia Lepperthttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02840970718186336518noreply@blogger.com2tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6193458857872469773.post-69420019654715733452015-12-24T01:52:00.002-08:002015-12-24T01:52:49.988-08:00I'd Like One Christmas Miracle, Please. Christmas is tomorrow and to use a much overused phrase, I'm feeling all the feelings. It's going to be an interesting Christmas, for sure. I'm not really sure how to feel about it.<br />
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On the one hand, for the first time in months I feel amazing. Last September I started weaning myself off what I thought was an extra antidepressant I didn't need to be on. (You may remember me complaining about withdrawal. Often.) Well, turns out I really did need to be on it. Once the withdrawal symptoms finally subsided, new but equally unpleasant symptoms showed themselves. I was not in a good place. I was most often angry, bitter, annoyed, anxious, and often overwhelmed with feelings of hopelessness. I didn't get back on the medication right away for reasons I won't go into *coughObamacare* but finally I decided enough is enough and got back on it. Literally within a day I felt like a new person. Like my old self. I'd forgotten what it felt like to laugh and smile, to feel happy and normal, to want to get out of bed and do stuff, to get on Facebook and Instagram and smile at the posts and "like" them instead of rolling my eyes and thinking things I'm ashamed of. I am so eternally grateful for modern medicine and self-revelation that showed me what I needed to do.<br />
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Yet as I'm skipping through my sunny days now, I watch my own sweet mother spiral ever downward and I've never felt so scared and helpless in my life. Many of you know the severity of her struggles of late but many of you don't. I haven't spoken much publicly about it to respect her privacy, but as time goes on the secrecy just seems silly and frankly, she needs all the prayers and good thoughts she can get. Besides, if she had some serious physical, medical ailment, there would be no secrecy at all, so why should this be any different?<br />
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For the last month or more she has been being treated for severe depression at Sacred Heart in Spokane. She is home now but returns once a week for electroshock therapy treatments. So far she's had 12 with no sign of improvement and we're not sure what the next step is. We pray, we fast, we pray some more. We research online and talk to friends and family who've gone through similar things. We talk to doctors, psychiatrists, therapists, etc. We try it all. And when nothing changes, we try not to lose hope. But it's hard. It's so very, very hard.<br />
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So you see, I'm not sure what to feel about Christmas this year. How can I be excited and happy when my mom is suffering so agonizingly? What we need is an honest to goodness real life Christmas miracle. If you're the praying type, and feel so inclined, please pray for my angel mother. Maybe with enough prayers we can get that miracle after all.Alicia Lepperthttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02840970718186336518noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6193458857872469773.post-44920657821497604592015-11-04T02:47:00.000-08:002015-11-04T02:47:32.749-08:00The Happiest Depressed Person I Know
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<i style="mso-bidi-font-style: normal;">Warning: If you’re
prone to feeling like people are “over-sharing” when they share deeply personal
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I’ve never kept my anxiety/depression a secret, but I’m not
overly vocal about it, either.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>I stopped
being ashamed of it a long time ago.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;">
</span>I’ve made peace with the fact that it will be a lifelong struggle for
me, that I will be on medication for the rest of my life just to feel…not
normal, but as close to normal as I can get.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;">
</span>I’m okay with that.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>But some
people—a lot of people—don’t get it.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;">
</span>Mental illness still carries such a stigma, despite the growing numbers
of people who suffer from it.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>It’s still
a taboo topic in society and often looked upon with pity, judgment, and
misunderstanding.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Unless you’ve suffered
from it yourself, or are close to someone who suffers from it, you just don’t
get it.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>You can’t.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>And that’s not your fault.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>But you can try.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Try to put yourself in their shoes.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>In mine.</div>
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I was 14 when I was diagnosed with a chemical
imbalance.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>I had suffered from severe
anxiety attacks my entire childhood but had no name to attach to them.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>I just thought I was overly scared of things,
things that seemed ridiculous to most people but were very real to me.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>I had never heard of anxiety or panic attacks.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Depression was people who slept all the time
and talked like Eeyore.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Mental illness
was crazy people in psychiatric institutions.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;">
</span>My parents weren’t familiar enough with it either to be able to pinpoint
what was wrong with me, or that anything was wrong with me beyond normal
childhood fears. </div>
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But then puberty hit and with it, hormonal changes.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>The chemicals in my brain couldn’t keep up,
and the daunting task of starting high school put me over the edge.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>I finally got bad enough that my mom saw the
need to take me to a psychiatrist.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Here
I received my fist diagnosis and a script for an antidepressant.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>I learned what a panic attack was, and could
finally put a name to the all-consuming, completely debilitating episodes that
had plagued me my entire life.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Those
times when hell had opened up and had threatened to suck me in.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>There was a name for it.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>I couldn’t believe it.</div>
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But I was angry.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>I
was scared.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>I was in serious
denial.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>I just wanted to be like all the
other kids and be normal and happy and free of stupid, embarrassing fears.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>I was furious that I had to take a pill just
to feel normal.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>So I didn’t.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>I only took it every three days when the
withdrawal symptoms set in and I couldn’t handle the electric shocks in my
brain and the way the room spun every time I moved.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>I was young and stupid and didn’t understand
that my brain needed that medicine like a diabetic needs insulin.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span></div>
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I proceeded through high school this way; mostly ok, but
totally unable to cope when things in my world went horribly wrong.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>I couldn’t handle big changes, especially
changes in relationships, and when that happened, I fell apart.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>I bounced from therapist to therapist,
getting no help at all.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>One guy would
talk about his other patients, then mutely stare out the window for 5
minutes.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Another one said I was doing
too well on my medication and he couldn’t help me unless I stopped taking it
and got some of my symptoms back.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>After
a trip to Seattle to have a psychiatrist tell me I was “textbook” and then
proceed to relay everything I had told him in confidence to my mother, we gave
up.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>(I knew that last guy couldn’t be
trusted when I saw a cartoon drawing pinned to his bulletin board in his
office, the punchline being something about Prozac.)<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>I was done with therapists. </div>
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After high school, I got married and got pregnant and things
went downhill again. (Pregnancy hormones and mental illness don’t mix well.)<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>I was a mess and my doctor switched my meds
up.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>That was when I learned that
antidepressants only work for 5-10 years (sometimes less) and then your body
decides it’s used to them and they stop working.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;">
</span>This was also the time my diagnosis was switched from “chemical
imbalance” to “severe anxiety disorder” and “depression.” </div>
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My pregnancies were rough.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;">
</span>The second one rougher than the first.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;">
</span>I barely made it through, and only with the help of an increased dosage
of meds and another one added for good measure.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;">
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couldn’t do another pregnancy, and that’s something I struggle with every single day.</div>
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Moms with anxiety and depression raising young kids deserve
some special award for bravery. <span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"></span>(Dads
too.) It was arguably the hardest thing I have ever done.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Lack of sleep, crying babies, sick kids, the
constant demand for attention, is hard enough.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;">
</span>Throw in emotional instability and you have a recipe for disaster.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>But here’s the thing:<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>we can still do it.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>People do it every day.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>And we’re still amazing parents.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>My kids are older now and pretty
self-sufficient but the challenge is not gone.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;">
</span>It’s just different.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span></div>
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So here’s why I don’t talk about my anxiety/depression.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Because people like happy endings.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>They don’t mind hearing your story if it’s in
the past tense.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>But the minute you admit
you’re still smack in the middle of that story, things get awkward.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>But to most sufferers of mental illness, the
happy ending is not “and then I was cured. The end.” It’s “I get through every
day, and some of those days are good, and some are crap, but I keep going and
that’s something I’m proud of.”<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>And <i style="mso-bidi-font-style: normal;">that’s</i> the happy ending.</div>
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Also, remember how I said that people who don’t have it just
don’t get it?<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Those people like it when
they can fit mental illness sufferers into a neat little package with a neat
little label on it.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span><i style="mso-bidi-font-style: normal;">Bipolar.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Schizophrenic.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Manic depressive.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span></i>But guess what, Mr. Doctor In Seattle
With Totally Unprofessional Cartoon On Wall? <span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>There’s nothing <i style="mso-bidi-font-style: normal;">textbook</i> about me, or my illness.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;">
</span>You can’t file me away under one category and call it good.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Despite what my file says under “diagnosis,”
I’m not anything that will make sense in anyone’s brain that hasn’t been there.</div>
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So what is it like to be in my shoes? I’ll give you an idea.</div>
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It’s standing in the middle of your kitchen, seeing the
dirty dishes, and being so overwhelmed by the prospect of doing them that the
only thing you can think to do is crawl back into bed.</div>
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It’s getting on Instagram and seeing all the pictures of
fellow moms doing things like baking, and taking their kids to the pumpkin
patch, and volunteering at the school, and dreaming about what that must be
like, to just decide to do those things and actually be able to do them.</div>
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It’s being proud of yourself for showering and putting on
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It’s wondering how much longer until your kids start to call
you out on things you and they both know you should be doing but aren’t, then
realizing it’s already started happening.</div>
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It’s being so consumed with self-doubt and guilt and
feelings of inadequacy that sometimes you can’t breathe. </div>
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It’s falling to your knees and pleading with God to “just
feel normal.”</div>
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It’s feeling so unbelievably tired that your bones feel like
they’re filled with metal instead of marrow, and your brain is full of sand,
and the only thing you have energy enough to do is sleep.</div>
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It’s dreaming up different ways to try and make your family
think you did something other than sleep all day without actually having to lie
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It’s thinking back to the days when you were young and
carefree and your biggest worry was which CD to buy and wondering if you will
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It’s wondering why the little things that people do every
day, the mundane tasks that they don’t have to work at doing, are like climbing
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It’s worrying that even though you think you feel ok, you’re
missing out on all the feelings that other people feel every day, because your
medicine numbs you, and you’d have no way of ever knowing.</div>
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You may read these and think they sound like the statements
a severely depressed person would make.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;">
</span>But you’d be wrong.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>(At least in
my case.) And that’s why I don’t fit into any one mold.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Because I’m a “happy” person.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Ask any of my friends and family members.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>I’m talkative, friendly, outgoing.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>I laugh and joke around and sing.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>I know it seems impossible that that could be
one person, but it’s true.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>And that’s
the beauty (ugliness?) of mental illness.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;">
</span>It doesn’t make any sense.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>I
don’t fit into the “depression” category.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;">
</span>I don’t even fit perfectly into the “anxiety” category.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>I’m not bipolar, either, sleeping all day and
moping around and then suddenly singing and dancing and cleaning my house. <span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>I am ALL of these things at ALL the same
time.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>And when I’m happy and talkative,
I’m not hiding my depression either.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>It’s
still there, just pushed to the back.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;">
</span>It’s all there—the good, the bad—all of it, always.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>I am the happiest depressed person I know.</div>
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don’t read this and think, “Wow, I had no idea Alicia was doing so bad.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>She needs help.”<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>I’m getting all the help I can get.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>And I’m ok.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;">
</span>This is me.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>It’s my life.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>It’s always been my life and will always be
my life and I will never give up hoping for something better but in the
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What is my purpose in telling you all of this?<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Understanding.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Understanding for the person in your life who
suffers from any mental illness.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Because
I promise you there is someone.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;">
</span>Understand they are not less than.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;">
</span>Understand they can still be happy and act normal and they are not faking it.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Understand that things you take for granted
being able to do every day are monumental feats for them to accomplish.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Understand that the best thing you can do for
them is to listen when they want to talk about it, show compassion, and don’t
try to fix them.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Because you can’t.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>That is worth repeating: YOU CAN’T FIX
THEM.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Trying will only make them resent
you.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Tell them that you love them, no
matter what, and you are so sorry they have to deal with stuff that you can’t
even begin to imagine on a daily basis.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;">
</span>Make sure they know you are always there for them.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Most importantly, don’t judge.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Until you’ve been there, you can’t
judge.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>And if you have been there, then
why would you judge??!!</div>
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Feel free to text/message/call/email me if you have
questions or want to talk.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>I am ALWAYS
willing to talk about this, and I am always amazed at how many people suffer
from it.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>People who are suffering in
silence, people who are scared to speak up because of the reasons I listed
above.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>To those I say, please know you
are not alone.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span></div>
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Alicia Lepperthttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02840970718186336518noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6193458857872469773.post-51542360881016131722015-07-03T01:11:00.001-07:002015-07-03T01:11:10.426-07:00Hi. I'm Alicia. I'm a Christian and I Love Gay People.I have read two separate articles/blog posts today written by people in support of traditional marriage. Both posts began with the authors saying how nervous they were to be writing about the topic, because of the side they happen to be on. One said his fingers were literally trembling at his keyboard.<br />
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<i><span style="font-size: x-large;">Why is that?</span></i><br />
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Why should we, or anyone for that matter, be so terrified to speak up about something in which we/they believe so strongly? <i>What are we so afraid of? </i><br />
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Being judged? Yes.<br />
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Being hated? Yes.<br />
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Hurting the feelings of people we love and respect? Absolutely. <br />
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Being called narrow-minded, hateful, bigoted? Most definitely.<br />
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We have every reason to be scared. Because so much of the world hates us right now. Hates us for being <i>religious</i>, a word they spit out with disgust and venom. Hates us for worshiping and following a God they see as a fairytale, or worse. Hates us for being the "modern-day KKK," the proverbial white man on the bus ("religious person") making Rosa Parks ("gay person") move to the back. Because she's lesser, not equal, not as good as us. You laugh at the ridiculousness, I know, but the comparison has been made, and sadly enough, it's not the worst thing being said.<br />
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And yet, the hypocrisy is <i>unbelievable</i>. Advocates of gay marriage stand on a platform of equality, acceptance, and LOVE FOR ALL*. <i>See fine print:</i> <span style="font-size: x-small;">*"All" encompasses only those who support gay marriage. If you don't, you are a hateful, bigoted spawn of Satan who deserves to be beheaded. </span><br />
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See the irony?<br />
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And here's the crazy part: <span style="font-size: x-large;"><i><b>I DO LOVE ALL!!! </b></i></span><br />
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Hi. My name is Alicia. I'm a Christian--a Mormon, nonetheless (gasp)--and I love gay people. I love transgendered people. I love everyone. I even want everyone to be happy. I want everyone to feel equal and no one to feel less-than or discriminated against. Is this often a conflict with my belief that marriage is ordained by God and should only be between a man and a woman?<br />
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Every. Single. Day.<br />
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Because I know that by fighting to maintain that sacred definition of marriage, millions of people feel discriminated against. Do I hate that? Yes. Does it mean I'm going to give up my belief, nay, my <i>knowledge</i> that marriage is ordained by God when done the way He intended? Never in a million years.<br />
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So you see? It's possible to disagree with someone's choices and beliefs and still feel love and compassion for them. I know so many people don't want to believe that. It's easier to get mad and feel angry and spew vitriol at those of us who believe differently than they do. It's easier to refuse to believe that we still love and accept the very people who have made choices we don't agree with. So weird, but, the very word "Christian" actually means "follower of Christ." We strive to pattern our lives after Christ's. And Christ was, is, and always will be the very definition of unconditional love. Did he love that the woman being stoned had committed adultery? Heck no. Did he love the woman? Without a doubt. See? It can be done. And it is done. By millions of Christians, every single day.<br />
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Are all Christians accepting and loving and not hateful toward gays? No. Does that mean all Christians should be lumped together into one big ball of hateful, narrow-minded, unaccepting people? No. Because that would be....yep, bigotry.<br />
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All I ask is for some fairness. All I ask is to be given the same acceptance, tolerance, and love, despite my differing beliefs, that those on the opposing side are fighting so hard for. I ask for the hypocrisy to stop and the equality that is so desired to be given to ALL people, including people like me, who oppose gay marriage. Because that is true equality, is it not?<br />
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And lastly, I ask my fellow Christians, my fellow supporters of traditional marriage, to <i>speak up too</i>. I plead with you to stop hiding behind your computer screens and quietly feeling anger and frustration and fear. Because I know you want to speak up too, or, at least, you have things you'd love to say. You wouldn't believe how many people have messaged me privately, ardently agreeing with me and saying they feel exactly the same way. But why are they messaging me in private?! Why won't they speak out?? Because of fear, and because they, like me, know and love people that they would undoubtedly offend. But I ask you this: Has my post about acceptance and love offended you? Any of you?<br />
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The time for silence is over. The time to speak is <b>now</b>. Our side needs a voice too, and we are being drowned out by the opposition. The world cannot know how strongly we feel about our convictions unless we tell it. Not by bashing the opposing side but by stating our beliefs in a loving, Christlike way. Because if we all truly acted in the name of love--as we are all claiming to--maybe we could start to see eye to eye. And wouldn't that be a wonderful thing?<br />
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Social media has ruined Christmas for me. In a way that has me thinking "bah humbug" with every scroll of my finger. Every picture of every perfectly decorated Christmas tree and every perfectly executed tradition and every perfectly coordinated outfit for every perfect Christmas card photo has me becoming more bitter and heartbroken at the reality that is <i>my</i> Christmas, which is this:<br />
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Decorations are hauled down from the attic at best by December 3rd or 4th, but more realistically, the 5th or 6th. By the time we actually pull said decorations out of their dusty bins and put them up around the house, a week has gone by and seven pockets on our advent will never be used. The adorable advent that hangs on the wall with 25 pockets that, on the first year we had it, were each filled with a slip of paper that had a Christmas related activity that we would do that day: bake cookies, make Christmas cards, go see Christmas lights, etc. That first year we diligently partook in every activity, no matter the strain on our time or bank account. The second year, that advent gave me anxiety to look at but I had started a tradition and traditions can't be broken, right? We did our best. The third year (last year) I almost didn't take it out of the bin altogether. I actually don't remember what we even put in the pockets. This year I'm deciding between telling the kids it was eaten by mice or that some poor family needed it much more than we did. <br />
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I used to spend days preparing handmade Christmas card (and hundreds of dollars, when all was said and done) with our latest family picture attached to send out to family and friends. Over the years I simplified the card more and more until finally resorting to the ever classic Costco pre-made photo Christmas card, and even that died a painful death over two years ago. Sending out Christmas cards of any kind are but a distant memory in this house. Family picture with coordinating outfits? Ain't nobody got time for that!<br />
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Every year I have bold aspirations of wrapping as I buy. Yet every Christmas Eve I am up till the wee hours of the morning watching the only Christmas movies I will watch that year as I wrap like an elf on crack. Which means my tree skirt sits barren below my Christmas tree until literally Christmas morning. My poor children make comments about how other families have <i>their</i> Christmas presents under <i>their</i> trees already and I snap back with some obnoxious comment about how only the kids who will actually never have any presents under their tree to open Christmas morning have the right to complain, while secretly feeling plagued with guilt at yet another Christmas failure on my part.<br />
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We have no Christmas traditions, really, other than watching The Polar Express on Christmas Eve while drinking hot chocolate (and by we I mean the three of us that stay awake *coughbill*). No new Christmas pajamas to unwrap, no caroling or traipsing up into the snow-covered mountains to cut down a fresh pine tree and go sledding...thank goodness the Elf on the Shelf came out after my kids were too old for it, or I would lie awake every night haunted by all the clever antics our little non-existent elf <i>wasn't</i> up to.<br />
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Please don't get me wrong. I am in <i>no way</i> critiquing or making fun of or judging anyone who does any or all of these things or who has the perfect Christmas I dream of every year. I'm just jealous, suffering from a hearty dose of good old fashioned, unadulterated envy. I try and live vicariously through those who do have the picture perfect Christmas, to be happy that someone, somewhere, has it all together in the month of December. But mostly I feel like this.<br />
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I won't give up. Maybe, just maybe, one day my Christmas will look like my Pinterest board. In the meantime, I make myself feel better by remembering that Christmas has nothing to do with decorations and traditions and positionable elves with questionable behavior.<br />
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<span style="font-size: large;"><b>"Then the Grinch thought of something he hadn't before! What if
Christmas, he thought, doesn't come from a store. What if
Christmas...perhaps...means a little bit more!” </b></span><br />
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Yeah, so it turns out, I'm wrong. Well, there's a pretty good chance I am, anyway. I was definitely taught a lesson in forming an opinion based on a few things I'd read and heard before learning all the facts. <br />
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So here's my shameful secret that only a few people know: <span style="font-size: large;"><b>Within days of sharing that link on Facebook, I went gluten-free</b>.</span><br />
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I know what you're thinking: What?! Hypocrite much?! Why yes, yes I am. And I've never been happier to be proven wrong. So here's the story:<br />
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The above-referenced post led to a heated debate (which I knew it would) and friends and family were quick to argue with me and tell why going GF had changed their lives. One friend in particular, who is very passionate about this topic, ended up messaging me privately to apologize for her heated comment (which was completely unnecessary, but appreciated) and it started a discussion about GF. I asked some questions, told more of my skepticism, and for days we went back and forth about the subject, with her sending me links and enlightening me more and more. (She has done a TON of research on the topic so the girl definitely knows what she's talking about.) I looked up the links, read up on it, did my research (which is what I should have done before sharing the link above). Normally I wouldn't have spent the time to do so, except for one thing: As I stated in one of my comments in that thread, <span style="font-size: large;"><b>I actually tested positive for Celiac Disease several years ago.</b></span> The blood test said I had it, the biopsy and endoscopy said I did not. Well, here's the thing: I now know, through my research, that one must have gluten in their diet for the endoscopy to show the damage the gluten is causing to their stomach (if they do indeed have Celiac) and my doctor, who will remain nameless, told me to go off of gluten for a month and <i>then</i> have the endoscopy done. The gastroenterologist who did my endoscopy knew I had been off gluten for a month and didn't say anything about it. Long story short, I now know the test results were screwed up and I am not about to pay the money to go through it all again.<br />
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<span style="font-size: large;"><b>So my friend suggested going off of gluten one more time.</b></span> This would be my third time in about six years. The first time was per my doctor's questionable orders, the second time was a year and a half ago when I was having crazy digestive issues. Each time was for a month, and each time I didn't notice a difference. My friend said a month wasn't enough, and I probably wasn't being careful enough with making sure everything I was eating was, in fact, gluten free. Which was probably true. So I decided to try it one last time, for at least three months, being super diligent about checking labels and not cheating, and see once and for all if gluten was causing my lifelong headaches and more recent digestive issues, which were worse than they'd ever been. <br />
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<span style="font-size: large;"><b>It's been a month now, and I feel amazing. </b></span>My headaches have almost completely disappeared and my digestive issues are GONE. But, I still wasn't convinced it was for sure the gluten. After all, I was eating healthier and avoiding sugar for the most part. (But not completely.) After a while I started feeling deprived as I watched everyone around me eat hamburgers and cake and all kinds of gluten-laden goodness so I started eating sugar if there was no gluten in it; you know, to make up for what I was missing out on. (Hello, milkshakes.) And I still felt great, so I knew it wasn't the sugar. I was eating plenty of dairy, so I knew it wasn't that, either. Still, I was not going to know for sure until my 3 months were up and I introduced gluten back into my diet.<br />
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<span style="font-size: large;"><b>And then last night happened.</b></span> I was sleeping restlessly so I got up to have some milk, which always helps, but I can't just drink plain milk without anything with it, because...gross. And sitting in my fridge, staring back at me, screaming at me to eat them, were these amazing looking gourmet cupcakes <strike>the devil</strike> my friend had brought us. <i>Don't do it, Alicia, </i>the voice in my head said. <i>Don't throw away the last month, you've worked too hard. You'll regret it. </i>But then another voice said CUPCAKE and <span style="font-size: large;"><span style="font-size: small;">before I knew it I was sinking my teeth into the most delicious caramel, peanut butter-filled cupcake with caramel frosting.</span><b> </b></span> Oh. My. Gosh, it was a-MAZING. As I ate it, I knew one of two things would happen: nothing, which would make me question the no gluten thing but not give up on it since I've felt so good, or something, which would prove to me that my body hates it. <br />
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I went back to bed and fell asleep. <span style="font-size: large;"><b>Four hours later I woke up with what felt like a butcher knife in the side of my head.</b></span> I have not had that kind of headache in, well, a month. Especially waking me up in the middle of the night. And I knew there was no way it could be a coincidence. And I knew it couldn't be the sugar, or any other ingredient in the cupcake, because the only thing in that cupcake that my body has not had in a month was gluten. So there you have it. My answer. Which is incredibly bittersweet because on the one hand, I FINALLY know, after all these years, what has been causing my headaches and stomach issues. But on the other hand....NO GLUTEN!!!! No cupcakes, donuts, cake, cookies, bread, pasta, and a million bajillion other things that have made up my diet my entire life and make me oh so happy. It will be hard, I'm not gonna lie. But it will be worth it. <span style="font-size: large;"><b>I finally feel like a normal, healthy person.</b></span><br />
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So the reason I say there's a <i>pretty good</i> chance I'm wrong about my previous opinion, and not a definite one, is because there's still a chance I actually do have Celiac Disease, which would mean my self-discovery about gluten wouldn't prove anything about people who don't have Celiac responding to a GF diet. But oh well. Who cares? Not me. If all those people have found something that makes them feel better, then I'm happy for them, and who the heck am I to say anything about it?? <br />
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I am Mormon. I have been since the day I was born, but I like to think I was even before that. I have never <i>not</i> been Mormon, and I know that because of this people think I am biased and unable to see outside of my little cushioned Mormon bubble. And maybe this is true to some extent. Obviously I only know what my life experiences have given me and allowed me to see and learn, including the things I have been taught every Sunday for 35 years, and every day in between those Sundays in my home.<br />
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But I am not an easy person to convince. I am not a mindless, impressionable creature that just does something because I am told. Sometimes I wish I was, because it would show great faith. But I have always needed to know <i>why</i>, and <i>how</i>, and <i>what</i> will happen if I <i>do</i>, or <i>don't</i>. I have always questioned everything, my entire life, and I don't just mean my religion. When I was very young my mom was ironing clothes. She told me not to touch the iron because it was hot and I would burn my finger. I had absolutely no reason not to take her word for it, but a few minutes later the doorbell rang and my mom went to answer it. The minute she was out of sight, I couldn't reach my little hand out fast enough to touch that iron. I couldn't just take her word for it, I had to learn for myself. And she was right. It was hot. And I burned my finger. <br />
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In high school some of my best friends were Catholic and we'd get into (mostly) friendly religious debates. During one of these debates one friend I was particularly close to accused me and my Mormon friends of only believing what we believed because we'd been brainwashed our entire lives. As I argued with him and demanded to know how it was any different with him and his religion, his words echoed in my brain, and stuck with me for a long time after, even now that he is no longer with us. And I've never stopped pondering it. It really got to me. Was there truth to his words? Do we all only believe what we believe because we've been told it by our parents and the people closest to us our entire lives? If I'd been born into a Catholic family would I have been on the other side of those classroom arguments, calling out the Mormon kids on their "bizarre" beliefs? I couldn't handle the thought. I <i>needed</i> to believe I believe what I believe because I <i>believe</i> it, not just because I've never been told different.<br />
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My point is, I've always stepped back and taken a look at my beliefs from the outside. I know how they appear to the world, now more than ever, with the Mormon religion under the microscope getting rotten tomatoes thrown at it day after day, so to speak. Do you know how it feels to be a part of something that so much of the world hates? Something that is so much a part of you you feel that you wouldn't be you without it? Something you hold so dear to your heart that every time someone speaks ill of it you feel like a tiny part of your soul dies? Well I do. And for someone who cares so very, very much what people think of her, it's not easy, let me tell you. So often I ask myself, "Can you do this? When people start really, truly hating you for being who you are and believing what you do, can you stick it out? Do you believe enough to stand by your church and not go running for the hills when the angry pitchfork-wielding mob comes?" I want to believe I can, and I do, and I will. Because I'm not stupid. I know that day will come. I know the day will come that even my belief in God will condemn me, and I want to be ready for that.<br />
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But mostly, I just want to be heard. I want my weak little Mormon voice to be heard among all these other voices that are screaming and shouting and being heard 'round the world. Because all anyone is hearing right now are those voices, Mormon and non-Mormon alike. All they're hearing is "Mormon church is kicking out their own for wanting equal rights for women" and "Mormon church opposes gay marriage so obviously they hate gay people and don't want them to be happy" and every other possible negative thing that can be said about the Mormon church. But what about what <i>we</i> have to say? The scale is being tipped so far in the other direction, I think it's only fair that we be allowed to add a little weight to the side that's hanging high in the air. Because what no one seems to be seeing is the inequality that is coming to pass in this fight for equality. Am I really the only one who sees it? Sometimes I feel like I am.<br />
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I got used to being in the minority for my beliefs a long time ago. I've watched as the world shifted from accepting and loving of those with different lifestyles (a good thing) to taking it a step further and despising, judging, and condemning those of us who don't agree with certain aspects of those lifestyles (not a good thing). I've watched as anger, hatred, and disgust became the common feeling amongst those fighting for equal rights, all in the the name of...love. Seem backwards to you? Because it sure does to me. Fight for equal rights, sure. Fight for everyone to be happy and loved and not judged. I want all those things too, whether you believe me or not. But please, <i>please</i> don't become a hypocrite by treating a group of people differently for their beliefs. Because it won't be long (I promise you this) before we--those of us fighting for what we believe in, no matter how unpopular it is--will be the ones being treated as lesser people who don't deserve to be happy. We will be the ones fighting for OUR rights to be equal. And who will stand for us then? Who will fight for OUR group that is being condemned for OUR beliefs? It's a very thin line between fighting against someone for quote unquote "not loving" and becoming that person. In the very, very near future, that line will no longer exist. It's already beginning to disappear.<br />
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The bottom line is, I love my religion deeply. Not just because it's all I've ever known, or because it's what my parents taught me or what I've been brainwashed to believe. Because I look around at what else is out there, or I think about just not having it in my life at all, about what would happen if I walked away, and I feel sick. I can't imagine the emptiness I would feel inside. The happiness that would undoubtedly be sucked from my life, the uncertainty that would plague my very soul about so many things. My religion is part of my chemical makeup, part of what makes me who I am. I couldn't walk away from it any more than I could walk away from my heart, or my brain. And the more people judge me, and push me, and argue with me for my beliefs, the harder my body wants to fight back. Because that's what I do when something I love is attacked. I fight back. I defend. I am fiercely loyal to the things in this life that I love. And that will never change.<br />
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So now you've heard it, one little voice against a whole lot of big ones. Maybe it will be heard, maybe it won't. But at least I've said it. And to answer the question of a recent attacker of my beliefs, <i>THAT</i> is how I sleep at night.Alicia Lepperthttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02840970718186336518noreply@blogger.com5tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6193458857872469773.post-16091518896533974992014-06-11T00:16:00.000-07:002014-06-11T00:16:59.784-07:00Transformation In A Move TheaterWARNING: It's about to get all sappy up in herrr. Also, spoilers.<br />
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Today I went with some friends to see The Fault in Our Stars, a movie made from an amazing book about two teens dying of cancer who fall in love. I know, sounds horribly depressing, but it's really not. Sad, yes. But the good kind of sad, where you sigh at the end and walk away feeling good because you truly <i>felt</i>.<br />
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But here's the thing: halfway through the movie I had a weird sort of revelation. About myself. You see, I am a self-proclaimed romantiholic. A romance junkie. I fiend for a good love story. I always have, and I hope I always will. I am a romantic through and through and nothing gets my heart pounding and my insides all crazy like a good love story. Which is exactly what happened when I read The Fault in Our Stars. I was <i>all</i> about Hazel Grace's and Augustus Waters's relationship. I couldn't get enough of them falling in love, their ironic wit and cheese-less romance. I pined through the entire thing and was all warm and fuzzy by the end. Romantically fulfilled in every way. And *SPOILER ALERT* when Gus dies, my heart broke because I was reading through Hazel's eyes; that was me reading his eulogy, knowing I'd lost the love of my life.<br />
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The movie was different. Well, actually, the movie was pretty much exactly the same as the book, they mercifully stayed incredibly true to it which is so rare and so fantastic. But it was different for me to watch it than to read it. Why? Because of Hazel's parents. The book portrayed them as loving parents trying to cope with the inevitable death of their only child while simultaneously trying to take the best possible care of her while still encouraging her to get out there and life life while she still can. They were good parents who obviously loved their daughter.<br />
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But in the movie, her parents (played by Laura Dern of Jurassic Park fame and some guy I'd never seen before who looked to be at least 10 years younger) were, well, amazing. What didn't come across on page came across powerfully on screen and I ached for them. I could feel every single emotion they felt dealing with this horrible, emotional roller coaster ride that could come crashing to an halt at any time. As I watched them stand over their not-so-little girl anymore, trying to hide their tears but obviously falling apart on the inside, I found myself completely overcome with emotion, fighting back tears and swallowing a serious lump in my throat. And that's when it hit me: I have transformed. I didn't get choked up when Gus died, or when he told Hazel he loved her, or when they cried together after he told her he was dying. No, I got choked up when Hazel's mom couldn't handle the fact that she couldn't afford to give her daughter her one dying wish. When her dad carried her like a baby in his arms into the ER one night when she couldn't breathe and felt like her head was going to explode. When it flashed back to a 13 year old Hazel in the hospital taking what they thought were her last breaths and they stood over her sobbing, telling her it was okay to let go. I almost couldn't handle it, because I was them, and that 13 year old girl could have been my own sweet, precious, amazing 13 year old girl.<br />
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And that realization, that suddenly I was relating to the parents of the teen instead of the teen in love was kind of shocking. When did <i>that</i> happen?? I'm not gonna lie, it was a little disconcerting. Am I like, grown up now? Or just...a parent of a teenager? It's so bizarre, I still don't know what to make of it. But it was eye-opening. And so, so powerful. And weird.<br />
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Anyway, my point is...I don't really know what my point is. I guess one is that there are certain things that just cannot be portrayed on page like they can onscreen. Another is that the actors were amazing and the filmmakers did a bang-up job of transforming the book to film. And a third is that self-realization can hit you anywhere, even in a dark theater surrounded by your friends who are all crying except for you. Because that, at least, is something about me that will probably never change. Alicia Lepperthttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02840970718186336518noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6193458857872469773.post-44577282387289287352014-05-28T23:11:00.000-07:002014-05-28T23:15:45.991-07:00The Story of My Journey to a Healthier Me, Part 2<span style="background-color: white; font-size: large;">Lately I've been kind of obsessing about food, and not in the usual way. I guess the juice fast really got me thinking for the first time about what I put into my body and how it affects me. What I've always known to be true (you eat junk, you feel like junk, and you get more junk in your trunk) is manifesting itself to me now more than ever. It seems like every single thing I eat affects me almost instantly, which is probably the main reason it's always on my mind.</span><br />
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<span style="background-color: white; font-size: large;">I am, by nature, a junk food addict. I grew up on delicious homemade baked goods, white bread, Cheetos, pop, cookies, etc. I honestly never thought about what I ate, and I never needed to. I was a skinny ninny. It wasn't until middle school that a well-intended, health-conscious friend began pointing out the evils of my diet. However, I didn't care. Why should I, when I felt and looked great (besides the occasional headache)? If anything, I wanted to be <i>less</i> skinny. I was always self-conscious of my small frame, feeling like a little girl as other girls my age were sprouting upward and outward and getting curves I would just never have (until much later). High school brought a new dynamic to my unhealthy diet, with off-campus lunches, a car, and money in my wallet. I discovered fast food and a passionate love affair began. Still, though, I was skinny, and I was getting curves in the right places so I was beginning to love my body. Why shouldn't I eat whatever I wanted? My mom and sisters would walk in on me eating a second lunch after school each day, usually consisting of a corn dog, chips, and Fudge Stripe cookies and say, "One day that's gonna catch up with you." And I would obnoxiously take a bite of my cookie and say, "Then that's the day I'll worry about it." Despite my figure, I was growing increasingly tired each day and my headaches were occurring more frequently. I attributed this to puberty and newly prescribed antidepressants.</span><br />
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<span style="background-color: white; font-size: large;">It wasn't until after I graduated from high school that I began to gain weight. I finally hit 100 pounds and gained the typical "Freshman 15," even though I was still living at home. I lived on fast food. And even though I was beginning to get stretch marks in places and some rolls in my stomach that I really wasn't happy about, I was still a size 4 and wasn't complaining much, other than wanting to sleep literally all. day. long. </span><br />
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<span style="background-color: white; font-size: large;">And then I got married and pregnant, and pregnancy + a diet of strictly deep fried foods and sugar don't mix well. I gained 50 pounds, lost some of it after having my daughter, then got pregnant again and gained 80 more. EIGHTY. That was 10 years ago and I still have not lost it all. In fact, I've gained back all that I lost over the years and I'm the closest I've ever been to that second pregnancy weight than I ever have been since having my son. And that is a terrifying, depressing thought. The weight, though, as much as I hate it, has become secondary to my health when it comes to the physical effects of my horrible diet. </span><br />
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<span style="background-color: white; font-size: large;">Over the past 10 years my headaches have increased by an alarming amount. After a solid year of unexplained nausea, I was tested for <a href="http://celiac.org/celiac-disease/what-is-celiac-disease/">Celiac</a>. The blood test came back positive. My doctor had me go off of gluten for a month before having an endoscopy scope of my insides done, which I now know was stupid for 2 reasons: 1) You need gluten in your system for the scope to see it and 2) a month probably wouldn't do anything anyway. Needless to say, the scope and biopsy found no signs of Celiac, but showed definite signs of <a href="http://www.mayoclinic.org/diseases-conditions/gerd/basics/definition/con-20025201">GERD</a> (acid reflux), which would explain the chronic heartburn, nausea, and stomach pains, which were sometimes so severe I was doubled over in the fetal position, crying. When I was diagnosed, the gastroenterologist told me it could be diet controlled. I went to my regular doctor and got a prescription for Prilosec. Such an easier fix. When that wasn't enough, I had her add another one. Now I could still eat whatever I wanted without the pain and heartburn. But the nausea still came sometimes, and my headaches persisted.</span><br />
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<span style="background-color: white; font-size: large;">Fast forward to now. I have begun seeing an almost instant physical reaction after eating, whether it's a headache, nausea, or other digestive issues I will spare you the details of. For a long time I attributed this to sugar, and the harder I tried to stay away from it, the more addicted I felt, the more helpless I felt in abstaining. But then I began to realize it wasn't just the sugar. It was <i>all</i> the garbage I was putting into my body, and all the good stuff I <i>wasn't</i> putting in. Since then I have been educating myself on diet and health and what my body needs to function at its peak capacity. I want to <i>feel good</i>. I honestly don't remember what that feels like. Of course I want to lose the weight and be skinny and look good in clothes and not cringe every summer when the pools open up, but that will come. Right now I want to wake up with no headache. I want to come home from work and not want to crash in bed. I want to go a week without random nausea. I want to be an example to my kids, who are already showing my propensity to eat all things that taste good but are not. I fear for them. And I fear for me.</span><br />
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<span style="background-color: white; font-size: large;">And so I am determined to change. I have resolved to change the way not only I eat, but my family as well. I am going to get healthy. How will I do this? I will tell you eventually, in a third installment.</span>Alicia Lepperthttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02840970718186336518noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6193458857872469773.post-20506345327335393512014-05-22T02:29:00.000-07:002014-05-28T23:14:06.101-07:00Smart People Can Be So Stupid<span style="background-color: white; font-size: large;">I kind of pride myself in being an easy-going person. I don't get worked up about a lot of things, I'm almost impossible to offend, and it takes a lot to really make me mad. I attribute this to many years of anxiety and depression. When you've spent most of your life fighting to feel good and normal, once you finally do, all the little irritations in life just don't really matter anymore. </span><br />
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<span style="background-color: white; font-size: large;">Don't get me wrong--I get road rage like nobody's business (Hey, you. Yeah, you. That stick next to your steering wheel? That's a blinker. You should try it sometime.) Pushy salespeople make me want to karate chop them to the throat, and brand new purchased items that don't work the way they're supposed to bring out a special kind of crazy in me. To name a few. </span></div>
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<span style="background-color: white; font-size: large;">There is someone I see on a daily basis who is not of my same religion (I'm a Mormon). We'll call her Jane. Jane is somewhat knowledgeable about said religion as she is surrounded by Mormons every day. She has often expressed her opinions to me on various points of doctrine and beliefs held by us, usually in a respectful, objective way, which I appreciate. Yesterday Jane struck up a conversation with me about a "friend" she has on Facebook who is LDS. This "friend," from Jane's description, sounds fairly obnoxious and not like someone I would get along with at all. She happens to be liberal, this "friend," and makes unintelligent comments on Facebook that do not reflect her in a positive light. The conversation about this "friend" ended with Jane saying, "It's people like her who give your religion a bad name."</span></div>
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<span style="background-color: white; font-size: large;">Cue record needle scratching across surface of record as the music comes to a halt. Say what? My usually lukewarm blood began to boil almost instantly and I had to physically walk away. But in my head the conversation continued, one-sided: "I'm sorry," I said sarcastically. "Your obnoxious, self-centered 'friend' on Facebook gives my <i>entire</i> religion a bad name because she happens to belong to it?" None of the stuff this "friend" was ranting about online had anything whatsoever to do with being Mormon. Had it been, I could maybe, <i>maybe</i> see some tiny hint of justification in condemning an entire religion based on the actions of one stupid person. (But not really.) But to say that this person's idiotic and totally secular posts on Facebook reflected badly on her religion is the equivalent of me saying that Mel Gibson gives Australians a bad name for making anti-Semitic comments, or Tiger Woods gives golfers a bad name for cheating on his wife. Ridiculous? Yes! Because the two are. totally. unrelated. </span></div>
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<span style="background-color: white; font-size: large;">And it didn't end there. Jane picked it up today right where she'd left off, only now I'd had 24 hours to think about her ignorant statement, to stew over it, convince myself more and more how stupid of a statement it was for someone fairly intelligent to make. So when the subject was approached again, I was ready. In my most (forced) casual, non-argumentative tone, I said "You're going to find stupid people everywhere. It doesn't matter what religion they are." Then I proceeded to tell her that we Mormons have an unfair disadvantage. Because some parts of our beliefs are so well known throughout the world and very black and white, we've been dubbed as "supposed to be perfect." Then, when we're HUMAN and make a mistake, or even just do something completely normal that an outsider has decided "real" Mormons shouldn't do, then we're not "good" Mormons and we're disgracing our whole religion. Now, more than ever, the Mormon church is under a microscope. It's hard enough trying to live each day in a way that would never give anyone a reason to question our faith. But on top of that, now we're to be judged by our intelligence level, tact (or lack thereof), and overall persona portrayed on social networking sites? I'm calling it: Not Fair. Not Fair at all. </span></div>
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<span style="font-size: large;">The pictures don't do it justice at all, there was glass EVERYWHERE. I ran back inside, threw on some clothes, and grabbed my phone to call Bill. I ran back outside to my neighbors where they filled me in more. As they did, I called Bill to COME HOME NOW. At this point the cop showed up and asked questions, interviewed the neighbors who knew way more than I did, got a pretty detailed description of the dirty little delinquent, and took pictures. He thought it was more likely that the kid used a rock to smash in the window, pointing to our play area filled with rocks smaller than ping pong balls. I was skeptical as I eyed the rake laying below the window. But, I'm not the cop, so I followed him in to Payson's room to "help him look for a rock" and that's when I saw the glass. Everywhere. All over both his bunk beds, clear across the room to his closet. How had I missed it before?? In my <i>bare feet</i>?? As we looked (and found nothing), I told him how the creep had done something to our front door knob so it wouldn't work anymore. As I said the words, it occurred to me that in my panic I may have been locking it when I thought I was unlocking it. It would have already been unlocked since I had never left for the day. I went to check it. It was locked. I had locked it trying to get out instead of unlocking it. I felt a little sheepish. Luckily he was a nice cop and said something about the crazy things we all do when we're in shock mode. Thank you, nice cop man. </span><br />
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<span style="font-size: large;">Then Bill showed up and told us the kid must have used the rake because it had been over on our patio before (I KNEW it!). The cop was on his walkie talkie the whole time and told us they'd found the bike in some yard a few streets over, abandoned, which was good for the people he'd stolen it from (we found out later he'd stolen it) and also good for the dogs they were about to send out to track him now that they had his scent and he was on foot. Alas, they didn't find him, but they did find a woman living in a shed with multiple warrants, so that was a bonus. (I really love my neighborhood, can I just tell you?) They told me she was unrelated but now I'm hearing that maybe she wasn't so much. Anyway, after everything calmed down and the cop left, the neighbors left, and Bill reluctantly went back to work, I had a pretty decent headache from the stress and excitement of it all, not to mention the fact that I was already not feeling well (remember the reason I was home in the first place?). I lay down on my couch and within minutes of Bill leaving, started hearing noises and booked it out of there, ran down three houses to my friend's house--pajamas, glasses and all. (Turns out it was just the wind through Payson's busted window rattling his door that I'd forgotten Bill had closed.)</span><br />
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<span style="font-size: large;">Later that afternoon Bill cleaned up the mess and boarded up the window really well. Payson's room is as dark as a tomb, and will be till the glass people can repair it this next week. But he's handling it fairly well, considering. This is the child I've had to have multiple conversations with convincing him the chances of us ever getting broken into were slim to none. And whose room does the would-be-burglar pick to break into, of all the windows in the house? Payson's. Thank you, you little delinquent punk.</span><br />
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<span style="font-size: large;">Now that the excitement is over, we're just trying to feel safe in our house again. It's not an easy thing to do when you feel so violated. Payson's room is like this black crime scene, a constant reminder of what went down. The scariest part for me, the part I try and fail not to think about all day long, is what would have happened if the guy hadn't been scared off. If he'd been in Payson's room when I wandered in there trying to find the source of the noise. Which leads me to tomorrow's post...till then...</span><br />
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Alicia Lepperthttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02840970718186336518noreply@blogger.com2tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6193458857872469773.post-83474474845529662332014-05-12T23:56:00.001-07:002014-06-02T01:04:10.043-07:00The Story of My Journey To a Healthier Me, Part 1<span style="background-color: white;"></span><span style="font-size: large;">I guess the best place to begin is at the beginning. A few weeks ago my sister Amy and her husband John watched a documentary called <a href="http://www.hungryforchange.tv/">Hungry For Change</a> on Netflix. They were so inspired by it that they did an instant overhaul of the way they ate. Even their kids took a second look at what they were putting into their bodies. Soon after, they watched another documentary called <a href="http://www.fatsickandnearlydead.com/">Fat, Sick, and Nearly Dead</a>. They convinced our parents to watch them as well, and soon both of them and my mom were all on a juice fast. When they first told me about it I wasn't interested. Good for them, but I could never do it. Obviously they aren't as addicted to food as I am, I thought. 10 days of <i>drinking</i> their <i>meals</i>? They won't make it past the third day, I predicted. But I was wrong. They made it past the third day, all the way to the 10th, and then some. When I heard their success stories, how good they felt, how much weight they'd lost and how <i>not completely impossible</i> it was, I started to think that maybe I could do it. If they could, surely I could. We are so similar in our physical and mental make-up. My mom, my sisters and I have all struggled with the same dietary weaknesses, addictions, feelings of complete lack of self-control. Reading success stories in magazines and online is one thing but to see my family<i> </i>actually do it is another. I was ready to check this whole juice fast thing out. </span><br />
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<span style="font-size: large;">I don't have Netflix so I signed up for the month-long free trial just to watch the movies. I knew watching them would make the difference. I am one that likes to arm myself with information. If I know the facts, I am more likely to stick to something. I don't want to hear that I should do it, I need to know <i>why</i> I should do it. And <a href="http://www.hungryforchange.tv/">Hungry For Change</a> answered that question for me, tenfold. To be fair, it wasn't much of anything I didn't already know. I've known for years that sugar is a "drug" comparable to cocaine, hence the sugar addiction. I've known that our bodies store fat because they were designed to do so back in the caveman days when we had no food for winter. I've known how horrible processed, manufactured foods are for our bodies. But I needed the reminder, and it was definitely an eye-opener. Then I moved on to Fat, Sick, and Nearly Dead. (I definitely recommend watching the movies, and in the order I did.) This was a much different movie from <a href="http://www.hungryforchange.tv/">Hungry For Change</a>, not so much an informative documentary as a video journal of one man's (<a href="http://www.rebootwithjoe.com/">Joe Cross)</a> quest to get healthy. He chooses to do this by juice fasting, and he takes it to the extreme by doing it for 60 days while traveling across America. It's fascinating and incredibly inspiring and it completely convinced me to to the 10 day juice fast.</span><br />
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<span style="font-size: large;">Now, I had several things working for me when I started. I was about a week behind my other family members who had finished their fast and transitioned into the "maintenance" part. I had witnessed firsthand their success, and that made me know I could do it. I give SERIOUS props to my sister and brother-in-law for doing it with no one to follow, but I guess doing it together probably helped them. I couldn't have done it. I don't think so, anyway. Also, I did one really smart thing that came with an unintentional side-effect: I put it on Facebook. I didn't do this for the purpose of holding myself accountable, but that's exactly what it did. On Day 8 I was ready to be done but there was no way I was going to give up 2 days early with everyone cheering me on! Also, I had an incredibly supportive husband who, although he thought I was a little crazy and had zero interest in the fast himself, did everything he could to help me succeed. Yay for supportive husbands!</span><br />
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<span style="font-size: large;">And so I hit up Costco and bought a week's worth of fruits and vegetables. (I was told this was the best deal, but now that I'm not juicing every single meal I buy smaller amounts at Winco or Walmart so the produce doesn't go bad before I can eat it. This is recommended in <a href="http://www.rebootwithjoe.com/my-book-is-available-in-the-us-and-canada/">Joe Cross's</a><a href="https://www.blogger.com/null"> book</a>.) And on Thursday, May 1st, I began my juice fast, or my "reboot" as Joe calls it. It's not a diet. It's a detox, a way to give your body a jump start to a healthier lifestyle. It releases the toxins from inside you and gives your digestive system a break from having to break down all the crap you've been putting in it by giving it only raw, plant-based food in liquid form. For 10 days (or however long you do the fast) your body is only getting the nutrients and vitamins it needs and none of the garbage. To people like me who had <i>only</i> been giving my body garbage, it was a bit of a shock to my system. Day 1 and Day 2 were pretty rough, with mild nausea, dizziness, and a pretty decent headache. But they went away quickly and it wasn't long before I felt amazing. My mind felt clear, I had energy during the day (unless I was overdue for a juice, then I got pretty sluggish), my desire for daily naps lessened significantly, my headaches disappeared completely, and most importantly, I felt better about myself than I ever had before. I was finally treating my body the way it deserved and NEEDED to be treated. </span><br />
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<span style="font-size: large;">Don't get me wrong, it was never easy. I felt hungry a lot of the time, but I got used to it. I learned that not always feeling full isn't a bad thing. It's okay to feel hungry. When I began to feel <i>too</i> hungry (gnawing pains in my stomach, lightheaded) was when I knew it was time for a juice (I probably waited a little too long most times). And once I drank one, I felt instantly full and satisfied and content. For once I wasn't eating food as a hobby or obsession or addiction, for recreation or entertainment or a quick high. I was eating purely to keep myself alive, but I wasn't starving. I was giving my body just what it needed and nothing more. And it got easier and easier the longer I went. I missed food like crazy, but the anger and frustration at not getting to eat what I wanted was overwhelmingly trumped by all the positive things I was feeling, both physically and mentally. And when I stepped on the scale on Day 10 and saw a ten pound loss, I almost thought about going longer. <i>Almost</i>.</span><br />
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<span style="font-size: large;">So for those of you who have asked, here are the specifics of my fast: I juiced three meals a day, and by "juiced" I mean I put raw fruits and vegetables into a juicer (this is totally different than a smoothie in a blender, the difference being the blender gives you every part of the food you put in, and I'm guessing is a bit more of a strain on your body to digest than just the juice. Joe discusses this in his book but I haven't read much about the difference yet.) and drank just the juice that comes out. I drank a large (roughly 25 oz) glass for every meal. Now, Joe says to drink 4-7 a day, but you can really have as much as you want. I could never seem to get more than 3 in. Although they were good juices, they were still the same thing day in and day out and I like variety. So I was happy with 3, and I wasn't starving on just 3. My sister needed more, and that's just fine. It's whatever works for you. Joe recommends 80% veggies to 20% fruit. This is where I failed, and I'm okay with that. After making his <a href="http://www.rebootwithjoe.com/mean-green-juice/">Mean Green</a> juice for my first few juices, I just couldn't do it anymore. It wasn't horrible, but if I was going to get past those first few days, I needed to be enticed to make and drink the juice. So I eliminated some of the greens and added more colorful vegetables (which he also recommends--"drink the rainbow") and fruits until the juices tasted like fruit juice to me. I know I didn't do enough greens, but that's okay. If I had I never would have made it 10 days. I ended up doing this recipe more or less each day:</span><br />
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<span style="font-size: large;">From there the fruits I added varied, depending on what I had. A few handfuls of blueberries, grapes, a pear, a few slices of mango, pineapple, etc. Anything you want, that's the beauty of it. I found one I liked and stuck with it, but there are tons of different recipes on <a href="http://www.rebootwithjoe.com/">his website</a>. </span><br />
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<span style="font-size: large;">And that's what I had, every day, for 10 days. That's the juice fast. It doesn't have to be 10 days, it's whatever you want. I did 10 because that's what my family members had done and I'm not sure where they got that number, but it was a good number. Joe recommends anywhere from a week to 15 days, or however long you can make it if you can't do that long.</span><br />
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<span style="font-size: large;">Now I am transitioning out of my juice fast and back into food, which I will talk about tomorrow, as this is already a long post. Hope this answers the questions of those who have asked! Let me know if you have more, I am more than happy to help!</span>Alicia Lepperthttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02840970718186336518noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6193458857872469773.post-35894683247284512522014-01-27T01:58:00.001-08:002014-06-02T01:05:18.763-07:00Mona Lisa Selfies<span style="font-size: large;">I've been waiting for something that struck me as worthy of writing another blog post and tonight I found it. My cousin Michelle linked to this on Facebook.</span><br />
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<span style="font-size: large;">I had so many emotions as I watched it that I could barely finish it.</span><br />
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<span style="font-size: large;">You see, I am 100% guilty of this. I've known it for a long time but I wasn't brave enough to do anything about it.</span><br />
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<span style="font-size: large;">I am a Selective Selfie Taker. I am that girl that takes ten selfies at ten different angles until I find The One that I am happy with the world seeing. The one that in no way portrays what I actually look like in real life on a daily basis. I'm the girl that crops the picture in close to hide my double chin and wide face. I'm the girl that doesn't smile with my teeth showing in pictures because it seems to double the size of my face. Also, my open-mouthed smile is crooked, something I never noticed until recent years. And I think it looks like I've recently had dental work and am waiting for the numbness to wear off. And I hate it. And that's really sad, because I smile with my teeth showing, all day long, every day. Nothing held back, just a big ol' grin to whoever makes me smile. I'm a very smiley person. And I don't think about my face looking distorted then. </span><br />
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<span style="font-size: large;">Only when I see it staring back at me in a picture do I hurriedly delete
it in disgust and try again, this time with my mouth closed, a la Mona
Lisa, which changes me from happy-go-lucky Alicia to
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<span style="font-size: large;"> <b>Mona Lisa Smile,</b></span><br />
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<span style="font-size: large;">Do you think anyone has ever looked at Mona Lisa and said, "Man, she looks like she was one happy chick."? I'd wager not. Based on these pictures, you'd think I was miserable, or at the very least, apathetic. And I am neither.</span><br />
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<span style="font-size: large;">Do you know how many pictures I've taken with family members with the intent of posting to Instagram and Facebook that never made it past my phone?</span><br />
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<span style="font-size: large;">I don't <i>want</i> to be that person. I don't <i>want</i> to be the girl that hides her true self and only shows the world what she wants them to see. But in a world that demands perfection and defines beauty as something that is, for 90% of the human population, unattainable, it's dang hard to not <i>be</i> that girl. And the worst part? The worse part is that I have a twelve year old daughter who already has to approve any picture I take of her before it can go on Instagram. As painful as this is for me to see happening, how could I fault her for it when I do exactly the same thing? I get it. Believe me, I get it. </span><br />
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<span style="font-size: large;">But have I taught her this somehow? Did she learn this from me? The thought never occurred to me until watching the video above. Have I inadvertently taught her that she is anything but beautiful inside and out in every way, shape, and form? Looking back, I probably have, and I can't bear the thought.</span><br />
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<span style="font-size: large;">So I vow to no longer be a Selective Selfie Taker. I vow to not be <i>that</i> girl anymore. I vow to portray myself exactly as I am, fat-faced, crooked-smiled, no makeup, and....beautiful. I will use less filters. I will take one picture of myself and post that picture, no matter what it looks like. I invite you to do the same. I will teach my daughter that beauty doesn't come in a filter and a carefully posed shot. That it comes in all her imperfections and distinct characteristics; her laughter, and her smile. Especially her smile. Because Mona Lisa ain't got nothing on her smile.</span><br />
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Alicia Lepperthttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02840970718186336518noreply@blogger.com3tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6193458857872469773.post-47206350049504491012014-01-09T02:07:00.000-08:002014-01-09T02:07:40.382-08:00Why I Wear Dresses To ChurchI've had this nagging urge to speak the things that consume my daily thoughts lately. I have so many, you see, and so often I feel like I might explode if I don't get them out. I've got a lot of thoughts and opinions and consequently, a lot to say. And then I remembered I have this thing called a blog. This tiny little corner of the internet that's just for me to say whatever the heck I want. So here goes. <div>
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I wear a dress to church, every week, for three hours. Sometimes I wear a skirt. I'm uncomfortable and insecure because said dresses and skirts don't hide the rolls like my jeans and sweaters do. They cut into my waist (or lack thereof) and require me to shave my legs so as not to emotionally scar those around me. I rotate through three dress/skirt ensembles, the only three that fit me, and I constantly pray no one will notice I'm wearing the same one. Again. And when I get home after those three hours I peel those suckers off faster than you can say "breathe again."</div>
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And yet, I love it. There are almost zero occasions in my life outside of church that call for dress clothes. At no other time am I compelled to shave my legs, wear dressy boots or heels, maybe throw on some extra makeup and jewelry, and even sometimes curl my hair. I feel special on Sunday. Fancy. Beautiful. Classy. Which puts me in a different frame of mind. That I am special, and I'm going somewhere special that deserves something more, something better than the jeans I wore the day before, or even the slacks I wore to work the day before that. </div>
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Does God care what I wear to church? Probably not. Does He appreciate that I'm showing Him respect and reverence and acknowledging that I am in a sacred, holy place by wearing special attire separate from the worldly garb I don every day? I believe He does. Would He be appalled and disgusted if I walked into Sacrament Meeting next Sunday in pants? No. But I believe He would be disappointed. Not about my attire, but about the message I'd be sending Him: that His house was not worthy of the best I had to offer. Is it about clothes? No. Is it about showing respect? Absolutely. </div>
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Alicia Lepperthttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02840970718186336518noreply@blogger.com5tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6193458857872469773.post-82184835717032741702012-09-13T01:22:00.001-07:002012-09-13T01:23:11.170-07:00Yes, It's Been A WhileI've been noticing the phases that I go through in a year's time. Sometimes I pull way back and suck into my little turtle shell and don't want to be social at all. Other times, like right now, I go through these diarrhea-of-the-mouth phases where I sort of overload the world with my every thought and feeling. The good thing about this is that it has me wanting to blog, something I just learned I haven't done since February!! (<i>Gasp</i>) I'm sure this phase, like all the rest, will pass in the near future and I'll stop blogging again but for now I'd like to take advantage of it.
So here's where I'm at. (Remember, this is my private blog in which I share personal thoughts and feelings.) I am trying to find my way in this new school year, with the house empty again except for me and a cat competing for the gold medal for Most Hours Slept In A Day. (So far it's a close race.) I am working on getting up in the morning and getting things done that <i>need</i> to be done and not just what I <i>want</i> to do. (ie doing the dishes or laundry instead of sitting on my couch in my pjs knitting, watching hour after hour of Downton Abbey.
What I have become a pro at is finding anything else to do except write my sequel. Seriously, I've mastered it. And it's not good. And it's weighing on my mind every bloody hour of every bloody day. It's not that I don't <i>want</i> to write it, I do. It's just...well, we'll save that for another post. So that's me. Knitting, watching Netflix and Hulu Plus and working on not succumbing to the autumn funk that gets me every time, the sneaky little minx.
Also, I'm still trying to find a part-time job, which, besides a little extra income, would help with the whole getting out of bed/the house thing. So cross your fingers for me that I'll find something soon.
Well that's it for now. Hey, at least it's something, right??Alicia Lepperthttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02840970718186336518noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6193458857872469773.post-70496732749470616662012-02-13T00:59:00.000-08:002012-02-13T01:29:28.630-08:00Reality CheckNow that my blog is private I feel safer, more secure, about what I can and want to say here. It's a nice feeling after the last few weeks of growing more and more exposed online. I have to laugh at my one New Years Resolution that I truly did have the best intentions of carrying out: blogging more. In a way, I guess, I have been. Just not here, not on this blog. How could I have known that a few weeks after making that resolution that my life would shift in a new direction (ie phase 2 of my publishing journey) forcing my focus to be dedicated almost entirely to my new Internet home (ie <a href="http://aliciakleppert.com">my book website</a>) and basically, the online world in general. Such a huge percentage of my days are spent on my laptop, contacting, connecting, networking. Business, business, business. But what a business it is. This is <span style="font-style:italic;">my</span> business now. I am, by trade, a writer. An author. A novelist. All of the above. And it feels akin to standing on the highest peak of a very tall mountain. I did it. I made it. My book isn't printed yet, but it's being printed as we speak and one day in the very near future I will receive a package on my doorstep--a box. And it will be full of my books. <span style="font-style:italic;">My</span> book. My precious piece of me that I dug from somewhere deep in my gut and laid out in word form. A fraction of my soul. <br /><br />And because of this thing I've created, my life is changing. Every day, I can feel it. Undoubtedly one of the most exciting, anticipating times of my life, and it's only going to change more. I already find myself struggling to stay grounded to reality, to break away from this high I'm riding to clean my house, remind my children and husband why I'm here and that I love them more than words can say. And then I read yet another 4 star review from someone who fell just as in love with my Jude and Olivia as I did, who hurt when she hurt, who cried tears of joy when she did, who fell in love with Jude as Olivia did and my dream is fulfilled. I'm right back up there, up in the clouds, riding that high. This was my dream, my goal, when I started this journey: to have people--even one person, but hopefully the world--love my story as much as I do. I could quit and walk away right now, before the first royalty check ever comes in, and die happy. <br /><br />I'm a writer, and a mother, and a wife, except not in that order. And that is all I want to be.Alicia Lepperthttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02840970718186336518noreply@blogger.com5tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6193458857872469773.post-86985691576467839912012-01-14T01:19:00.000-08:002012-01-14T01:37:08.138-08:00NOT Talking About My Book.So life got insane. Fast. And I feel like I have tunnel vision. And all I do is eat, sleep and breathe my book and not even the good part (aka the story). I can't break away from the constant wondering of what I should be doing to promote it and pretty soon everyone's gonna get sick of it. Of me! But it's my job and it's what I have to do. <div><br /></div><div>But not here. Here I can write about anything other than my book. Like, about how Bill and I went on the most spur-of-the-moment date tonight when we suddenly found ourselves without kids to go see Sherlock Holmes. (Love R.D.Jr., LOVE Jude Law, didn't so much follow the movie. Like, at all.) And about how Payson was playing baseball (pitching) on the Kinect and said, "I'm gonna give him a hard one!" and his super mature parents burst into a fit of giggles. And about how Macy came home from school today sobbing cause one of her best friends called her a "big fat ugly jerk" and my heart literally broke into a thousand pieces. And how I'm getting my hair cut and filled tomorrow and I'm really excited about it. And that I've taken myself off gluten to try and prove my theory that it causes my weird, bloaty stomach pain that gets worse every day. (So far, my theory has been correct.) I can also talk about my amazing friends and family who are here to support me and help me in any way they can. And that I had no idea today was Friday the 13th until just now, which is actually Saturday the 14th. And that my kids' beds are empty and I don't like it. There's so much more I could talk about but I really have to try to go to sleep in my efforts to break my cycle of living like a firefighter. </div><div><br /></div><div>Thanks for listening. </div>Alicia Lepperthttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02840970718186336518noreply@blogger.com2tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6193458857872469773.post-66416606144050685242012-01-08T00:38:00.000-08:002012-01-08T00:58:38.384-08:00I never thought it'd be so hard to blog so much. Me? Run out of things to say? As it so happens, my life isn't as interesting as I thought. I thought my problem with blogging more often would be forgetting to, or lack of desire, not lack of material. What if people don't care about the fact that I did absolutely nothing today? What if I'm not too keen on advertising that fact? But I don't want to be that person that I always end up being, making grand declarations and not following through with them. And so, I blog. <div><br /></div><div>I may have done nothing today but last night I did. And I mean literally, all night, while the rest of you slept soundly in your beds, I was wide awake. All night. Because I slept all day. Because I still didn't feel good and it's completely thrown my sleep schedule off. Anywho, by 5:30 this morning I gave up hope of getting tired and had a sudden desire to work on the "about the author" page on my website. Yes, I have a website, my very own .com but I can't tell you what it is yet cause its not ready. Cause I've been dragging my feet. Until last night. I mean this morning. Very, very early this morning. I sat in the dark and wrote 10o interesting (I hope) facts about myself, ranging from my love of desserts to my childhood nicknames. It was really fun to do. Then, after FINALLY falling asleep at 6:30 and getting a few hours of sleep under my belt, I woke up and thought about my list and realized that some facts that seemed totally appropriate to share with the world at 5:30 am on no sleep didn't seem so much anymore. Not to mention the fact that I had two number 34's, was missing numbers 72-75, and stated my age as 33, not 32. So I revised and re-edited (like the good little author that I am) and came up with what I hope is an entertaining (but not too revealing) list of things about me. </div><div><br /></div><div>With that done, all I have left to do is write up a quick summary of my book (so ridiculously easy i have no idea why I've put it off) and we can launch this thing! I can't wait! Seriously, it will be awesome. I can't wait for you all to see it. </div><div><br /></div><div>But now I'm gonna be a good girl and attempt to put my phone down and go to sleep cause 8:30 church is coming whether I want it to or not!</div>Alicia Lepperthttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02840970718186336518noreply@blogger.com2tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6193458857872469773.post-9486979688011513712012-01-06T00:16:00.000-08:002012-01-06T00:30:38.062-08:00Things I'm thinking about today:-Marketing. I've never done it before, I have no idea how to do it, and I'm expected to do it. Perfect recipe for anxiety.<br /><br />-Money. Why is it either feast or famine? Why can't it be, like, always feast?<br /><br />-Writing. I'm itching to do it again, only I don't know where to begin. I need to start my sequel but I need to decide a few things before I can begin.<br /><br />-Sickness. It sucks.<br /><br />-Sleeping. Why am I obsessed with it?<br /><br />-Kids. They're growing. Way too fast.<br /><br />-Cats. Why do they insist on pooping on the floor a foot away from their freshly cleaned litter box?<br /><br />-Reading. I finished my book club book and have $30 sitting in my Amazon account just begging to be used. The possibilities are endless!<br /><br />-Friends. I love mine. I wish I could tell them without freaking them out.<br /><br />-Basketball. Macy had her first practice today. There goes my Tuesday and Thursday nights. On the plus side, she loved it. (Any 9 or 10 year olds wanting to join? Her team has a few spots left and she would LOVE to have a friend on it. We don't know anyone on it.)<br /><br />-Cowboys and Aliens. Just finished watching it. It was okay.<br /><br />-Diets. I'm sorry, "lifestyle change." It's just not happening. I need a miracle. I need to feel okay about my body. I need to look good in my itsy bitsy teeny weeny yellow polka dot bikini in Hawaii. Did that make you laugh? The thought of me in a bikini? Well it should have, and if it didn't, you have no sense of humor at all.<br /><br />-Hawaii. Cause I'm always thinking about Hawaii.<br /><br />-Bedtime. Yeah right! This is the one time of day I <span style="font-style: italic;">don't</span> think about sleep.<br /><br />I'm out.Alicia Lepperthttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02840970718186336518noreply@blogger.com2tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6193458857872469773.post-65813220717043330372012-01-04T20:58:00.000-08:002012-01-04T21:36:39.743-08:00SickoOh, how I love to be sick. It's not very often that I get this kind of sick; the kind that is actually something you can catch from someone else and isn't just some kind of unexplained "don't feel good." I woke up yesterday morning with a slight sore throat. By mid-day it was more than slight. By evening it was making my head ache. (Which was extra fun preparing for a house full of Bunco friends.) This morning I woke up...and rolled over and went back to sleep. All day. This isn't unheard of for me, but at least this time I had a valid excuse to do so. I finally forced myself out of bed at dinnertime and now I'm sitting here wishing I could go back to bed, but even sleeping doesn't feel good anymore. My throat hurts, my head hurts, and it feels like someone is pumping air into my head. Good times, good times.<br /><br />But Bunco was fun, even hosting it, which always stresses me out big-time. I can never relax enough to enjoy the game. Am I moving it along too fast? Am I going too slow? Is my house too hot? Too cold? Is my cat rubbing up against people's legs and I'm totally oblivious to it? (I sometimes forget that not everyone is a cat-lover like me, and that, in fact, there are some people--shocking as it may seem--that actually <span style="font-style: italic;">hate cats</span>. Go figure.) But all went well. My fellow Bunco players raved about my dinner (tortilla soup, my absolute fave), my new home decor they hadn't seen since I'd switched it out, and, as always seems to be the case when I host for some bizarre reason, I won High Score, the biggest prize you can win at Bunco. ($20 gift card to Target, holla!)<br /><br />Now my hubby is at basketball and I have to decide if I want to curl up on the couch and watch something good or get in the bath and finish my book for book club, which is always something I love to do when I'm not feeling good. But that would mean having to clean my bath first, so...looks like watching something it is.Alicia Lepperthttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02840970718186336518noreply@blogger.com3tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6193458857872469773.post-29800894216406265822012-01-03T01:06:00.000-08:002012-01-03T01:24:14.655-08:00Memory Lanes<a onblur="try {parent.deselectBloggerImageGracefully();} catch(e) {}" href="http://1.bp.blogspot.com/-jcJ1HeOzF5w/TwLFSGscZiI/AAAAAAAADWU/fSAWj8T0jnk/s1600/photo%25284%2529.jpg"><img style="display:block; margin:0px auto 10px; text-align:center;cursor:pointer; cursor:hand;width: 299px; height: 400px;" src="http://1.bp.blogspot.com/-jcJ1HeOzF5w/TwLFSGscZiI/AAAAAAAADWU/fSAWj8T0jnk/s400/photo%25284%2529.jpg" alt="" id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5693329793775068706" border="0" /></a>Today we took our kids bowling for the first time ever. It was one of those things that made me feel like I could put on my "Good Mom" badge, even though the whole thing was Bill's idea. Today was the last day of his 10 day vacation and he wanted to spend it doing something fun. So bowling we went. It was definitely pricier than I'd thought it would be, but I have to say, it was totally worth it. The kids had a <span style="font-style: italic;">blast</span>, and, frankly, I'd forgotten about my stellar bowling skillz.<br /><br /><br /><div style="text-align: center;"><a onblur="try {parent.deselectBloggerImageGracefully();} catch(e) {}" href="http://3.bp.blogspot.com/-gQr9bqWiY1s/TwLFbbsdueI/AAAAAAAADWg/9Ig4jaagD5o/s1600/photo%25283%2529.jpg"><img style="display:block; margin:0px auto 10px; text-align:center;cursor:pointer; cursor:hand;width: 299px; height: 400px;" src="http://3.bp.blogspot.com/-gQr9bqWiY1s/TwLFbbsdueI/AAAAAAAADWg/9Ig4jaagD5o/s400/photo%25283%2529.jpg" alt="" id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5693329954031122914" border="0" /></a><span style="font-size:85%;">"Take a picture of our hideous shoes." --Macy</span><br /><br /><div style="text-align: left;"><span style="font-size:100%;">That's right. I pretty much rocked the lanes. I took a picture of the scoreboard after our first game but it was too tiny and blurry to show the multiple X's across the board and the final score of 140, which happened to be the highest number on the screen. Hidden talent? You could say that.<br /><br />I think the best part, though (besides beating Bill), was watching Payson try and chuck the ball that was bigger than him down the lane. It was priceless. It only flew out of his hand on the back swing twice. And I must have passed on my bowling genes to Macy, cause she got the hang of it really quickly. I nicknamed her the Spare Queen, cause she got one almost every time (with the aid of the bumpers, but, still.) All in all, it was an awesome time that I will always treasure.<br /><br />Now I am in full panic mode because I am hosting Bunco at my house tomorrow night and my house isn't clean (that was <span style="font-style: italic;">my</span> idea of what we should do today), I have no groceries, no idea what to make for dinner, no prizes, no idea what to even do for prizes. I usually give myself two full days to get ready for Bunco. Tomorrow promises to be insane. Wish me luck.<br /></span></div></div>Alicia Lepperthttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02840970718186336518noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6193458857872469773.post-71224598914253030952012-01-02T00:51:00.000-08:002012-01-02T01:24:17.820-08:00Apparantly Surfing Movies Make Me Cry<a onblur="try {parent.deselectBloggerImageGracefully();} catch(e) {}" href="http://3.bp.blogspot.com/-h0NFQ0SODZ8/TwF3rO4rO3I/AAAAAAAADWI/nf2qltY3yKo/s1600/photo_surf_USA_Hawaii_Kauai_anini_beach-_wires_46920dfc9c088.jpg"><img style="display:block; margin:0px auto 10px; text-align:center;cursor:pointer; cursor:hand;width: 400px; height: 300px;" src="http://3.bp.blogspot.com/-h0NFQ0SODZ8/TwF3rO4rO3I/AAAAAAAADWI/nf2qltY3yKo/s400/photo_surf_USA_Hawaii_Kauai_anini_beach-_wires_46920dfc9c088.jpg" alt="" id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5692962988586908530" border="0" /></a><br />The first day of 2012 went fairly well. I woke up at the crack of dawn to be to church by 8:30. (1 week down, only 51 to go) I embarrassed myself by sleeping through the second half of the first hour like I knew I would, and then I spent the last two hours chasing around five toddlers as opposed to 17, which was, needless to say, fabulous. Then I came home and took a nap for a length of time that I am neither proud of or going to disclose. (New Year's Resolution #4: Sleep less = FAIL) I woke up to the smell of frozen lasagna baking in the oven that my amazing husband threw in for me so I didn't have to wake up (even though I was weeeeeell past the time that I should have) and had a yummy family dinner, after which we decided to watch Soul Surfer, which Macy got for Christmas.<br /><br />This is where my day took a bizarre turn. I had heard that the movie was good. Really good. Clean, feel-good, inspiring. What I wasn't told was that it would inexplicably become the third movie I would ever cry during. Literally. The third. And I didn't just well up and squeeze out a tear or two. I cried. And cried and cried and cried. And when I wasn't actually crying my eyes were burning, tears hovering on the brink just waiting for the next emotional moment to send them over the edge. And then I was crying some more. I have <span style="font-style: italic;">no idea why</span>. There was just something about this girl, experiencing one of the most tragic, horrific things imaginable (getting her arm bit off by a shark, for those of you who don't know what Soul Surfer is about) and just going back out there, trying her hardest to continue to do what she loved most in the world. Now, I know there are 6, 394 other "don't give up" movies out there with the exact same message, and, if I'm being honest, I usually can't stand them. I find them incredibly cheesy and I hate being <span style="font-style: italic;">made</span> to feel emotional. (Don't tug at these heartstrings, they are un-tugable.) But when this girl's arm disappeared down a shark's throat and she's paddling one-armed to shore in shock, she's muttering a prayer, over and over. And something about that--her faith--hit me hard, and for the rest of the dang movie, I was a blubbering mess.<br /><br />I want that kind of faith. I want to know that if I'm ever out surfing and a shark attacks me and rips off my arm (highly probable), that instead of screaming my head off and thrashing around, I pray. She was such an example to me. If you haven't seen this movie, see it. Besides the message of faith, it also stresses family togetherness, positivity, service, and forgiveness. Seriously, I can't say enough good things about it. Oh, and as a bonus, it takes place in Kauai, Hawaii, where Bill and I will be in June!!! So excited.<br /><br />Now the day is over but thanks to my lengthy nap, I'm on the opposite side of the world from tired. Thank goodness for iPhone games.<br /><br />Day 1, 2012: success.Alicia Lepperthttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02840970718186336518noreply@blogger.com2tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6193458857872469773.post-90533476897498563652011-12-31T18:48:00.000-08:002011-12-31T19:19:40.111-08:00So Long, 2011<div style="text-align: center;"><a onblur="try {parent.deselectBloggerImageGracefully();} catch(e) {}" href="http://3.bp.blogspot.com/-mxeA8bVIyIY/Tv_JuYiMXpI/AAAAAAAADV8/YiptHoddvsY/s1600/IMG_0463.JPG"><img style="display:block; margin:0px auto 10px; text-align:center;cursor:pointer; cursor:hand;width: 267px; height: 400px;" src="http://3.bp.blogspot.com/-mxeA8bVIyIY/Tv_JuYiMXpI/AAAAAAAADV8/YiptHoddvsY/s400/IMG_0463.JPG" alt="" id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5692490252716629650" border="0" /></a><span style="font-size:78%;">This is the background on my phone right now. There are no words for how much I love it.</span><br /></div><br /><br />According to urban legend, this may well be the last New Year's Eve we ever celebrate. I could stop and think about this for a while, and let the anxiety run its course until I find myself curled up in the fetal position muttering things like "water supply" and "food storage," but instead I will opt to move on and think of happier things. Like a new year looming in the very near distance, bringing with it a chance to throw out things in my life best left behind, and a chance to introduce some much-needed things that have sadly been missing from it. I'm not going to list what these things are. This is not a resolution post. History has proven that if I speak it, or write it down, it will inevitably crash and burn a painful, fiery death. Call me superstitious, or call me smart (both are accurate, in my opinion). Or better yet, text me. Either way, mums the word. I'm not declaring my resolutions this year, but I have made them, and I'm very excited to begin bettering myself.<br /><br />Okay, maybe this is a resolution post. But not <span style="font-style: italic;">that</span> kind. I resolve not to set myself up by revealing what I've resolved to do. Otherwise I may as well call it a list of things that will most definitely <span style="font-style: italic;">not</span> happen in 2012.<br /><br />There is one thing about 2012 that I can talk about, though, because it is incapable of being jinxed. It will happen, no matter what I do or say: 2012 may just be the biggest year of my life, with the obvious exceptions of 1979, when I was born; 2000, when I was married; 2001, when I had my daughter; and 2003, when I had my son. It will undoubtedly make the list of top five, and, if the doomsday-ers are correct, and 2012 is the last year we'll be here, then let's just say I'll go out with a bang.<br /><br />In April my book <span style="font-style: italic;">will</span> come out, and that is a fact. And after that...I have no idea. I have no idea how it may or may not change my life, and that giant question mark is no small amount of exhilarating. I love the unknown, at least about this. I can't wait to see where my little ol' book will go, or not go. Maybe I'll be the next Stephenie Meyer, and within a few years I'll be a household name and my book will be made into a movie and my husband can quit his job because of the millions I'll be making. Or maybe it will only be read by my friends and family and a handful of others and that'll be that. And that will be fine with me. Because all I need is to see <span style="font-style: italic;">my</span> book, with <span style="font-style: italic;">my</span> name on the cover, sitting on a shelf in some bookstore, and I can die happy. But no one knows. And I love that. What an exciting year 2012 will be.<br /><br />So goodbye, 2011. 2012, I welcome you with open arms.Alicia Lepperthttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02840970718186336518noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6193458857872469773.post-10615796710656775532011-12-27T02:30:00.000-08:002011-12-27T02:57:33.841-08:00Heck Yes, I'll BlogSo my sweet sister told me on Christmas that my blog was calling my name, demanding my attention. I thanked her graciously then politely informed her that my blog was the only one missing my presence in the blogosphere. Her response showed the wisdom I've always admired in her. She said, "So what. Write anyway. Write a little bit each day and pretty soon people will start reading again, and maybe, hopefully, even commenting again." (This coming from the woman who deleted her own blog after about five posts in as many months.) <br /><br /><blockquote><span style="font-weight:bold;">"IF YOU WRITE IT, THEY WILL COME."<span style="font-style:italic;"></span></span> </blockquote><br /><br />That's basically what she was saying. And I realized she was right. And even if she's not, I don't care. I want to write, and I want to write every day. One of my very besties made it her New Years Resolution last year to blog every day of 2011. (Less than a week to go Rach!) While she didn't quite make it every single day, for the most part she did it and it was awesome. At the time I thought she was crazy but now I'm doing what I do best which is eating crow and doing something I said or at least thought to myself I'd never do. Hopefully this resolution fares better than my own ambitious one last year, the No Sugar For a Year project that was doomed before it began. <br /><br />Anywho, I'll be here, most days, jotting down a thought or two (or ten or twelve) and basically saying whatever the heck is on my mind. Cause that's the beauty of blogs, and that's why I started this thing in the first place 5 years ago. If you feel so inclined, stop on by and pay me a visit. Maybe drop me a note in the comment box if you feel like making my day. Or not. Whatever. I'll still keep writing, regardless. I may even throw in a picture or two sometimes, if I'm feeling fancy. Who knows? It might get crazy up in herr. <br /><br />But now I must sleep. And by sleep I mean read for another hour.Alicia Lepperthttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02840970718186336518noreply@blogger.com7tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6193458857872469773.post-45143453224574495082011-10-02T00:41:00.000-07:002011-10-02T01:25:40.785-07:00A Greater PowerLately it feels like life is spiraling out of control. For awhile it was just because I was so busy, busy, busy finishing my book, but now it's more like things are constantly happening in the world around me that I have no control over, reminding me just how much this life is not ours, but our Heavenly Father's. It's hard for me to think about, that it's His hand allowing all these things to happen, unimaginable things, but I try to have faith that He knows what He's doing, that there's a reason for it all. <br /><br />I've struggled lately, for a few months now, with a hot bed of not-so-pleasant feelings, primarily numbness towards things I should care about and anxiety, which has peaked to levels it's only been at before when I was pregnant and hormonally crazy. I didn't know why it was, but it was scary. Really scary. To the point where I was scared to leave my house. I went to a new doctor who determined that one of my meds was all wrong for me, and the other had simply run its course after 11 years. Stopping both of these cold turkey and starting two new meds in the same week my final book revisions were due sent my anxiety levels through the roof. I was certain the med changes would make me sicker than a dog, despite the doctor's insistence it would not. He told me to be optimistic. My mom told me to have faith. I tried both, and learned a great lesson in trusting in the Lord and in doctors. I was mildly nauseous and a little drugged-feeling for about a week, but nothing I couldn't handle. And I finished my book, days before schedule. <br /><br />Throughout all of this, which is and always has been (and will undoubtedly always be) MY trial in life, I have been repeatedly humbled to witness the trials that others are going through. I know everyone has their own trials, and something that can seem minor to one person can be another person's Gethsemene, so to speak. I truly, truly believe this. But I also believe that there are some people in this world whose trials are more than anyone should ever have to bear, more than what most people could ever dream of handling. And as I hear of their suffering, I realize the only term to describe the way I feel is "heavy-hearted." When I think of these precious spirits going through these nightmarish physical ordeals, and the pain and anguish their loved ones must endure watching them go through it and having no knowledge of what the future may bring, I feel a pit in my stomach and a weight in my chest that I know is but a fraction of what they are feeling. <br /><br />It makes me feel guilty, for spending so much time lamenting my own problems, so minor in comparison. It makes me grateful, that I do not have to go through such a baptism by fire. It makes me grateful for the perspective it provides, for the slap-in-the-face-get-over-yourself wake up call it gives me that I so badly needed. It makes me feel helpless and desperate feeling, that I can't do anything for them, and it makes me grateful, for once, to know that I'm not in control, something that has almost always caused me anxiety. It's these times when I NEED to know that someone much greater than me is in charge, and that through Him, it will all be alright. <br /><br />I feel so blessed to have the knowledge that I have, and that those I know of that are suffering have it too. It is this, I know, that will get them through their trials, just like it will get me through mine.Alicia Lepperthttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02840970718186336518noreply@blogger.com6