Monday, September 21, 2009

friend –noun 1. a person attached to another by feelings of affection or personal regard.


Thank you so much for all your kind words and empathy. Even though just expressing my troubles makes me feel considerably better, the comments that follow are definitely an added bonus.

Although my physical condition has not changed much, my emotional condition has, at least where my own suffering is concerned. The cause of the improvement? In a word, friends.

To be honest, I don't usually like "friends" posts. I'm not that kind of person. I don't even buy Kleenex, let alone use it when I'm feeling sentimental. I don't do fluff. But for the first time in my life, I am learning the definition of friends, and it is very real.

Here are the definitions in my personal dictionary of friends:

1. the one that never fails to make me laugh, is always up for a good time, brings a certain spark to life, making me love to be around her (for whatever reason); she always makes me feel good about myself, except for her perfect hair, which makes mine seem absolutely heinous in comparison.

2. the one that seems to be my clone, the only one who can truly relate to everything I go through. the one who loves me for all of me, and will never judge me; the only one who can rival me in my love for books.

3. the one who fills up my inbox, who surprises me every day with things we have in common that I would never guess; the one who can whoop any man on the planet at video games.

4. and then there is the one who knows all the little details about you that no one else deems important enough to notice, the one who knows exactly what you need before you realize you need it, who is on your side before she even knows what the other side is; the one who is always there, leaving your favorite flower on your doorstep just to put a smile on your face; the kind of friend I wish everyone had.

And then there are the happy, smiling, loving faces of other friends who always make me so happy. Laughing, eating, talking, playing, laughing some more.

Nothing is more important than family. But every girl needs good friends. I can't imagine my life without my mine.

8 comments:

Rachael said...

Can I get an AMEN!! Friends are the best! I am glad I am one of yours...

Amy J. said...

Yea...I would like to order a number 1,3 and...what the heck can I just get all those to go!?

That is pretty much an amazing list qualities your friends have...Napoleon says it best, "luckyyyyy"

Davis Family said...

Hello, you didn't list the neglectful friend that says hello, sometimes comments on your blog, and occasionally knows whats going on in your life.....not that I think you have any of those types of friends but maybe........

Cindy Brinkerhoff said...

glad you are feeling better. I always feel better knowing I have friends too.

Ben and Alissa said...

I love what you said in the 4th one, that she's on your side even before she knows what the other side is. That was so beautifully stated! Sounds like you have some pretty great friends! :)

Shayla said...

Amen, friends are the best! And did I mention that I MISS YOU! No really, I MISS YOU! Back to my packing and moving and leaving the ward where we hardly see you, but at least I SEE you!...but I couldn't miss a read from your blog. Love you!

Marilyn said...

Alicia, what a great post. I too, am so grateful for friends.

And I am so very glad that your friends reach out to you when you need them the most.

meohmyers said...

Awww. Love this post. I'm so glad you have great friends right there when you need them! :) What would we do without them? Love you.